veto power can obscure personal agency and accountability in relationships. A partner who says, I must break up with you, I have no choice because my primary partner demands it, is, in fact, choosing to end that relationship. Shifting responsibility for this choice onto a third party (or phrasing a breakup decision in terms of we, when only the primary partners comprise that we) may be a rhetorical sleight-of-hand to deflect personal accountability while hurting someone.
― Amy Gahran,
Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life
Like Amy Gahran?
Buy Amy Gahran products
Do you Like Positive words, poetry and words to describe someone you love?